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Friday is The Book of Questions Day around these parts. Today’s query comes from the aptly titled book “The Book of Questions” by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.
And here it is, Question 181.
What do you like best about your life? Least?
The part I like best: I’m the adult in charge; what I say goes. This answer is based on the fact that I live with three children 24/7 — except during the school year when that’s more like 18/5 Monday through Friday and 24/7 on the weekends and holidays.
If I did not have children the answer would still be the same — The best part of my life is being an adult.
You may have noticed that I have massive control issues. I get it, I understand why I have them and I’m happy that I can finally live by my mantra — live and let live. You do your thing — without forcing it on me — and I’ll do mine.
I do lay down rules and consequences for my kids, but when they disagree I give them two choices on how to proceed.
For instance, they can choose to help me clean the living room or they can choose to sit in time out for a bit before they help me clean the living room.
If they drag their heels while getting ready for school I tell them they can step it up or they can go to school wearing pajamas and/or sporting bed head. Whatever choice they make does not impact when the train leaves. That’s how a real train station works.
If you go to Grand Central Station and board the train on time, you’re going to enjoy a trip across the countryside. If you’re standing on the platform bitching about whether you should have to brush your own hair when the whistle blows and the doors shut, you’re not going to get to your destination on that particular train.
They call that consequences. My kids choose to stand defiantly on the platform once every six months or so to get a refresher on whether the train actually leaves or not.
It always leaves.*
The part I like least: Hmm. Paying the bills. The way I see it, there’s no real downside to being an adult.
*No, I’ve never left one of them home alone to take the other two to school. However, I did make one of them go to school with messy hair because she had a screaming fit about it all morning.
She refused to brush it and she would not let me brush it. And yes, she screamed, cried and yelled until we pulled into the parking lot at school.
She didn’t fight with me about her hair for a while after that.