The book of questions, Volume 5
Here we go, Friday is The Book of Questions Day.
As per usual, today’s question comes from “The Book of Questions” by Gregory Stock, Ph.D.
And here it is, Question 69.
If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it? Can you be counted on to be on time?
Lately I don’t hang out with or meet friends, so the first part of this question doesn’t really apply to my day-to-day life. Also based on life circumstance (having three small children) I don’t like to plan on being anywhere on time (with the kids), because it’s hard to gather them up and get them out the door on time.
Really during the summer months the only time I have to meet someone with the kid is at a doctor’s appointment and then I am Nazi Mother who rules with an iron fist. The pediatrician’s office is roughly one mile from my house. But I make sure all three kids are buckled in their seats in our driveway 15 minutes before the appointment time.
By the time I drive there, get them unbuckled and standing inside the office I have about five minutes to spare. The point is, no one is waiting on me.
Getting them to school is a similar concept. I try to allow 20 minutes of drive time to go one mile in the opposite direction, to make sure each kid makes it to her separate class room on time.
Now when it’s just me going somewhere I allow plenty o’ time. I am always early. My idea of early is walking in with five minutes to spare. I like to have a bit of time to sit and collect my thoughts and then I’m ready to jump in.
As you might expect, these days when I meet someone alone it’s either Paula or the psychiatrist. Paula runs late. Every. Single. Time. I can plan on her being anywhere from six to ten minutes behind schedule.
The funny thing is, it wouldn’t matter if she were 30 minutes late. As long as I am not the hold up, I could wait for days. I will move Heaven and Earth to get there on time, with a couple of minutes to spare.
I do prefer to have a magazine, a book or a notepad and pen with me when waiting for someone who is late. That way I have some down time and something to do, rather than people watch in a small cramped space.
Now the psychiatrist is a totally different story. He has mentally adjusted my appointments because he knows I always get there at least ten minutes early. Somehow the client before me has always left ten minutes ahead of my appointment. So instead waiting for ten minutes and then sitting in my 20 minute appointment, I can have up to 30 minutes to talk with him. And he usually steps into the waiting room 45 seconds after I sit down.
I have to say I appreciate that and have adjusted my expectation accordingly. Just as I expect Paula to run late. She always makes up the time in my 50-minute appointment, but as you would expect, her schedule runs later and later after each appointment and I always feel bad for the last appointment of the day (usually an 8 pm).
So I guess I do allow for the other person to run late.
But I do resent it at the pediatrician’s office when I have all three kids with me. Man that bugs the living shet out of me.
The last two times we saw the pediatrician I had three kids with me and then two kids the second time. Both visits we had to wait 30 minutes in the outer office (yes I got there five minutes ahead of our scheduled appointment). And then we had to wait 25 minutes inside the exam room.
Now when the doctor actually gets inside the exam room the visit is pretty quick barring an unexpected asthma attack/breathing treatment.
That’s what happened last time. Katie needed two back-to-back breathing treatments and it took two hours. In the exam room with an 8-year-old who did really well and a 3-year-old who was climbing the fecking walls. (Pulls hair and screams violently.)
I really needed an Ativan after that visit.
Now on the flip side, my family doctor usually runs late but it’s not a problem if it’s just me waiting.
Waiting with kids is a big problem. I have a high level of patience when I am alone. Patience dwindles rapidly when I am waiting with small children.
I do wonder about Paula, the pediatrician and family doctor in their non-working environments. Do you think they run late when they’re meeting friends? Do you think they care?
“If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it?”
I would stop relying on that friend. If someone says, “we’ll meet at 12″, and they get there at 12:05, that’s not really an issue at all. However, I have a friend who says we’ll meet at 12, and then doesn’t arrive until 1:15, with nary an apology. This happens pretty much *every single time* we meet up. I’m not exaggerating. So now, I go to the meeting place and do some shopping, or whatever, and then go and find them afterwards.
It really irks me that they do this, because it’s not like it’s difficult to pick up a phone and say “I’m running late”.
Oddly enough, we don’t often meet up any more. I don’t particularly like being lied to, and that’s what they’re doing when they make arrangements they know they wont be able to keep. If it was a one off, I’d be more patient, but if they don’t respect me enough to say that they’re going to be late, then it seems our friendship isn’t that important to them.
“Can you be counted on to be on time?”
Absolutely. If I have to go somewhere new, I will always plan the route ahead of time, and often I’ll go and drive it, just so I can pick up various landmarks and help get it cemented in my head. I always allow a lot of extra time to get somewhere, just in case I get lost, and I always find out where things like parking places are, etc. I know how much it annoys me when I’m late, and I’d hate to put other people in that position.
I, too, find it highly annoying when someone tells me “I was so busy I didn’t have time to call.” You couldn’t take two minutes to *say* “I’m so busy I can’t talk.”
It sounds like if you and I ever meet Solomon we’ll both be there right on time!
Hola CG!
Not too long ago, I had plans to meet a friend for dinner. I waited for 45 minutes and she didn’t show. I didn’t have her cell or work numbers, so I called her house and left a message that I was leaving the restaurant after waiting for 45 minutes and that I hoped she was okay. After I arrived home she called me from the restaurant to tell me that her boss had kept her late and that she was “surprised” to arrive at the restaurant an hour and 15 minutes after our meeting time only to find out that I had already left. I could tell in her voice that she was pissed that I hadn’t waited longer! I asked her how long should I have waited for her before leaving without eating? She thought about it and responded that I should have waited an hour. I told her that now that I knew the rules, next time I would just arrive an hour late. Needless to say, there has not been a next time.
I can confidently say that I have never been late for anything. I abhor it. Unfortunately, I am married to a chronically tardy man. I have learned to lie to him about start times. I hate being late. And I hate being kept waiting when others are too thoughtless to care about my time.
Enjoy your weekend!
Mucho Smooches!
Val
Oh man, I would have been so peeved. So an hour, eh? Think *she’s* willing to wait an hour for you? That’s crazy. Glad to hear you’ve created a work around with your hubby :)
Great question! My pediatrician does the same thing. I bust my hump (or should that be lovely lady lump?) to get there on time. I live 30 minutes away. I have five children. Why can I manage to be on time (and penalized by paying a fee if I’m late) and the doctor can’t? Why is my time that much less important? Can I get a refund on my bill if the doctor is more than ten minutes late? I wonder if I would mind so much if the doctor spent more than 6 minutes with my child? I answered a question with a lot of other questions, didn’t I? :)
Oh I would be so pissed if *I* had to PAY if I were late and the doctor had no consequences if he/she were late. That is NOT RIGHT!
I think Cardiogirl:Justice Fighter has emerged…
I think I would make allowances. I was the freelancer for an ad agency back in the day, the creative director was constantly at least half an hour late. So we’d tell him meetings were forty-five minutes earlier than they were actually planned. Sometimes he made them. I make the Nazi mom effort to get places on time. Maxwell, however, is more lackadaisical than I am. We may be a few minutes late or riiiiight on time with him. If I am by myself, I am on time or a little early.
Hmm, we sound like we are of one mind, Elle. No surprises there.
“If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it?”
If it was a true friend, I would allow for it. Maybe I’ve been that late friend sometime (especially since my daughter was born).
It does really depend on the relationship I have with the person, I will allow more time for the people I like, versus less time for people who sort of annoy me.
Jeez, type much? plz fix my half-fast asleep mumblings above. Thin-q.
Done!
I have a few mommy friends who run late–I always try to be five to ten minutes early.
But my husband…if he’s going, we will be twenty minutes late, at minimum. It drives me fecking nuts. He’ll decide, ten minutes before we need to leave, to do something like mow the lawn…then he’ll have to take a shower and change. By that time, I’m trying not to kill him.
And what’s worse, he’s diabetic, so sometimes we’re late because he had low blood sugar…and that’s why he thought it was a good idea to mow the lawn right before we need to leave…it’s a good reason to be late, but really, it drives me nuts and I can’t get mad at him for it! Many times, we are also meeting people who don’t know he’s diabetic, so they are probably sitting there going, wtf?
But I used to be late constantly, so now it’s a HUGE thing to me to be on time or early. I don’t mind other people’s lateness, I just wish they would call and let me know. Except my husband. Except when he has low blood sugar.
Can’t he carry a candy bar instead of mowing the lawn? Or a protein bar? I’m not well versed in diabetes so I have no idea what I’m talking about, but I thought you could carry some kind of food item to solve that problem.
“If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it?” It depends on the friend. If it was someone whose company I enjoyed thoroughly, I would probably allow for it. If she was consistently 30 minutes late, then I would tell her to meet me at 1:30pm in hopes she’d be there by 2pm. But any later than that, and I probably wouldn’t try very hard to maintain the friendship. If she never apologizes and just expects everyone to operate on her schedule, that would be a deal-breaker also. This is all hypothetical; I don’t normally meet people somewhere. I’m either going to their houses or they’re coming to mine.
“Can you be counted on to be on time?” I absolutely hate being late. I grew up in a home where we were always, always late, and it drove me batty. That holds for situations where I really NEED to be on time. It doesn’t matter if Grace is late to school, so we’re frequently about five minutes late. I’m amazed when I see people rolling in 30 or 45 minutes late. You’re PAYING for that time, folks!
I hate making an appointment and then having to sit around and wait. Kurt did something weird to his back, and he went to sick call first thing in the morning. They were so backed up they gave him an appointment for 10am. We came back at 10, and he still hadn’t been seen by noon, when I had to leave to retrieve Grace from school. THAT was ridiculous. I also went to get Grace’s photo taken at Penney’s when she was probably six or nine months old, and had an appointment in between naptimes. We sat there for at least an hour, waiting for our appointment, because there was only one person working and the woman ahead of me couldn’t decide which photos she wanted to purchase. Gahh. By the time we had her photos taken, Grace had been crying, so her eyes and face were all red. I didn’t want to reschedule; I lived in the boonies out in WA and it took forever to get to the mall.
Amen sister to all of the above. We stopped getting photos at Sears when Emily was 9 months old (I think, could have been six months) and just went back this past month. I cannot STAND waiting with children to get photos taken. Grrr!
p.s. Got your letter today! How fun!
“If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it?”
In the case of a really good friend or family member I allow for it. My aunt is habitually late to family gatherings and after waiting to eat many Christmas and Easter dinners while the food got cold for 2 hours we started telling her that we were eating earlier. She is still late but we end up eating closer to time now.
I am more understanding of the doctor’s office waiting because I was a doctor’s receptionist for a few years. What the patients in the lobby don’t know is that even though the doctor only spends 5-10 minutes with most patients, sometimes the doctor has to spend an hour with someone based on a complex situation or there could be an emergency.The receptionist can’t schedule for that. That was the worst part of my job having to tell all the people that rearranged their lives to be at their appointments that there was a 2 hour wait.
“Can you be counted on to be on time?”
Always. If I am late there is a very very good reason. I live my life on a schedule and assume everyone else does as well so I am not one to show up late and inconvenience people. If anything-I arrive too early.
Again, I connect with my reader. I’m very rarely late. I can’t believe your aunt would be two HOURS late to Christmas dinner! But good for all of you for going ahead to eat anyway.
I used to work for two surgeons, and they were constantly running late which meant I had to be the one to tell the patients that. It was even better when I had to cancel appointments because they were running so far behind.
I try to get everywhere early (except for work on Sundays). I hate being late because I feel awkward and think everyone who has been waiting on me will be pissed.
I feel that way too, that everyone will be waiting on me with torches and pitch forks. That would SUCK IT BIG TIME to have to cancel appointments for the surgeons. Yuck.
If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it? How funny that you should ask. : ) I am blessed that to date you have allowed for it. I am really getting *SO* much better at being on time, kind of. Mike and I can’t wait until tomorrow. Just to be on the safe side, I’ll send our cell phone numbers and you can send yours to me at work. I am not sure if I have the correct number.
Tonya, I SWEAR this was subconscious. I was not thinking of you when I wrote this question out. I will wait for you forever! I’ll send you our cell numbers at your home email since it is now 5:17 pm, I got a late, late start in answering comments today.
See you tomorrow!
Like you, I am always early. But more than 5 minutes, because for me, that would be cutting it close. This has had the added benefit of teaching my kids never to be late. Neither of them ever are! Woot! Guess I did something right, huh?
As to a friend who is chronically late? I would put up with it, as long as it was a good friend. I might play the game of telling them to meet me earlier than planned so they would be there on time, but that depends on how late they usually are…
I do wonder if my kids will be early, on time or late as adults. I hope they’re early.
Hi C-Girl,
I’m not sure I’ve got a simple answer for the question of the day. It depends a lot on how late and how often. If somebody runs five or ten minutes late – no that doesn’t bother me much but 30 minutes or more on a consistent basis, yes that would get old.
Now a courtesy phone call telling me they’re running late, that would help a lot.
Of course it also depends on how good a friend this person is – the tolerance is a lot higher for a good friend than just a casual acquaintance.
I guess I’m lucky with my doctor. She seems to run a pretty tight ship and I don’t often have to wait to see her. Probably it helps that most of my appointments are early morning appointments.
Have a great weekend.
That reminds me of my endocrinologist. I need to make an appt. with her and I need to be one of the first appts. because she runs CRAZILY late. Like at least an hour or so. I don’t know what she’s talking about with all of those patients but it does get trying.
I do like and try to be on time. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don’t.
I do have a friend who is ALWAYS late (5 -15 min). That is not too long to wait for someone you care about when you are aware of their scheduling disabilities. Having to wait for 45 min plus is a different story unless there are dire circumstances. At least a phone call giving you the option to reschedule is appreciated.
With regard to doctor’s offices; I’ve been on both sides of the counter so it is hard to get too angry with the staff. If I have the first appointment of the day and have been waiting more than 5 minutes past my appointment time – I have a problem – especially if the doctor comes waltzing in 20 minutes late. Sometimes its because they had trouble getting their kid(s) out the door that morning or because they ran late doing morning rounds at the hospital. Not my problem, not a great way to start the day – especially if their is no apology or explanation. If the appointment is in the middle of the day and the doctor is running late; things happen during the day that will set their schedule back. 2 minutes extra with one patient, 5 or 10 with another; it easily adds up to 30 minutes.
As long as you like and trust your doctor and you know that they would take the extra time with you too if needed – it is worth the wait. I take reading material and always had toys and coloring books for the kids when they were little. Once in the examination room – let them draw on the paper that is rolled out on the exam table. The staff does not care. One can always call your doctor’s office ahead of time to see if your doctor is running on schedule or if you should show up X amount of minutes late. I worked for an Oncology and Hematology practice. One of the doctors was always on time. A patient was slotted for 20 minutes; that’s what they got, 20 minutes. Another doctor was always ALWAYS 1 – 3 hours behind schedule. He took as much time as necessary to deal with that patient’s and family’s needs and concerns. We would call patients and let them know that he was running late and they would call us to find out how far behind he was. It was a mutual respect between staff and patients for an incredible doctor. If I were in their situation I would wait the 3 hours for him instead of the doctor who was on schedule regardless of their mirrored abilities.
As a patient I always tried to be on time. Even when my kids were small I tried. Our pediatrician’s office was 5 minutes away, but it could take up to 10 minutes to find a space in the parking lot. So I would arrive early so that I could circle the lot with the other vultures waiting for a space. Then I figured out that parking was easy first thing in the morning and right after school and made my routine appointments accordingly.
Now, if I do find myself running late for a doctors appointment, I try not to get stressed. I figure that I would probably be sitting in the waiting room for 5 – 10 minutes if I arrived on-time, so now I’m just spending that time waiting in traffic instead. AND they have most likely made me wait before so it will not kill them to wait on my this time.
If it is a business meeting and the same person makes me wait time after time, I have no patience left. I used it all up in the doctors office. I now want to poke the business meeting person’s eyes out with my thumbs!
Alright, I will admit that the doctors get a small get out jail card because they cannot control their patients and the patient’s issues. But a business meeting running chronically let deserves a poke in the eye. The manager in Corporate America is not saving lives.
Cardiogirl you are so interesting, I love this post cause you make me smile. I used to be a by the clock, don’t you dare be late and I was never late person. People used to set their clocks to my movement.
Uh, since the kid, be happy if I show up. I think I use that as an excuse sometimes to be late. Paula sounds like she’s late for everything…the family doctor needs a better schedule. I guess in that business things come up that really can’t be planned for, it’s not always so routine, but waiting 30 minutes, my head would be on freaking fire. Shucks I wanna be like you again and start being more on-time for stuff. I know it’s in the planning. I do hate to keep people waiting and for the most part, I don’t, but it happens.
It is hard being on time when you have to factor in other people (children) and when you feel tethered to the children that can be difficult. That’s why when I’m on my own I don’t really mind waiting at all, because I am sans children. You can do it Natural! You can become a born-again anal retentive on-time person.
ya know…..i am terminally early for everything.My friend and my mom are late for everything. So in order to ensure i am not flipping out by being late because yes it bothers me THAT much is if i am setting an appt. knowing my mom or friend are going with me, i tell them the appt is 30 minutes earlier than it really is. Only once has that not worked lol. I know it’s sneaky but it works, so my conscience is clear lol.
As long as it works, it’s fair game, I say :)
I have a couple of friends who are usually a few minutes late….sometimes it is because they got caught at work and couldn’t leave on time. I usually am early anyway to get a table so I don’t mind unless it gets to be 20 or 30 minutes and I start worrying that I am at the wrong restaurant. As for family being late, that drives me nuts especially if it is for a holiday meal.
I often drive the day before a meeting to be sure I know where to go so I can be early.
Amen on checking the route ahead of time. I also do that and plan an extra thirty minutes of drive time to get lost. And I, too, start to wonder if I went to the wrong restaurant if the other person is too tardy.
I HATE to be late. I have people who are ALWAYS late, and I just assume they will be, so it doesn’t bug me – but don’t want to EVER be late to meet THEM, because I know that will be the ONE time they are on time.
Doctors used to drive me bonkers, but I’ve gained some patience since I learned to bring paper and pen with me.
That’s always what I figure, the one time I will be running five minutes behind, that will be the time the chronically tardy person shows up early. Grr.
Well, it would seem that God has surely given me many opportunities to practice the art of patience.
Gulp…
I’m the one who is usually late…if I am going to be more than 15 minutes late, I try and ring and let the other person know. i just don’t have much of a sense of estimating how much time it takes to prepare/travel/allow for the unexpected. My poor husband is very time conscious, always asking me things like “how many minutes will x take?” and I honestly don’t live all that much by the clock, and don’t time myself when I do activities. He just allows and extra 1/2 hour to my estimated time-frame. Some of us in this world dance to the tick of a different clock. But I do TRY to be on time…(sigh)
First let me congratulate you, jeanette, for being the first to admit you are usually late. Nothing wrong in owning it. At least you’re trying to alert the other person — kudos for that.
I would feel a little stressed if my husband wanted me to figure out, down to the minute, how long I thought a task would take. And at least you are trying to add an extra half hour to your prep time. Well done!
p.s. Welcome to the Cardiogirl Empire, I don’t think I’ve seen you in the VIP Lounge (comment section). Have a look around!
I’m the late one. I try not to be but I ALWAYS get lost. I try to build it in to my appointments. God, I am so directionally challenged.
And again, I appreciate your candor, pantrypuff. I find if someone uses the phrase “You can’t miss it” when giving me directions, that’s a guarantee that I will, indeed, miss the place. But since I am so anal retentive, I have that extra 20 minutes factor in to miss the behemoth that the other person is talking about.
I have been out of town for a couple of days and just got back. I will be brief! I am a Nazi about being on time, both in my personal and professional life. I do not think I would have a friend who was chronically late, because that would make me nuts. and no, I would not allow for that.
In my practice I bust my butt to run on time. I feel it is disrespectful to my patients to make them wait an excessive amount of time. There is an occasional office emergency that may run me a bit late, but that is rare, and not usually more than 20 minutes.
Late patients drive me crazy, and I may not see them if it is not an urgent issue, because it is not fair to my patients who do show up on time. One of my partners shows up to work 30 + minutes late every day. By lunch time she can be running an hour late. For the life of me I do not know why her patients put up with that crap! Have a good weekend!!
Once again, I must have subconsciously posted this question and mentioned my pediatrician with you lurking in the back of my mind, Michelle. I do understand that running a schedule and relying on the other person (patients) to arrive on time puts the doctor in a crunch. But I have a feeling you at least apologize to the patient for running a bit behind.
Our pediatrician (the only one in that building) rarely mentions, “I’m sorry for the wait.” Grrrr. I am beginning to think about finding a new one, since this one really has location as the only thing going for her — she’s a mile from our house. She’s certainly not the only game in town, and she’s associated with a large hospital that has a lot of satellite centers so I could easily find someone from that hospital so the records would be available.
I might have to call around and ask the office if the new pediatrician runs on time.
Thanks for your honest answer and some behind the scenes info. I’m surprised your colleague doesn’t get written up or have some disciplinary action taken for getting there half-hour behind every day. Don’t doctors have some kind of boss they answer to?
I am pretty much always — pending an emergency — on time. I absolutely hate being late. I link it to all those Fridays nights / Saturdays waiting for my dad to come pick us up after my parents split up. He was always late, at least an hour, often two. I never wanted to make anyone feel like he made us feel (esp with my mother not doing well at hiding how much it pissed her off!)
Weirdly enough my dad is always on times these days. He decided to change one day and he did.
I actually think lateness is the height of rudeness, because it implies that they, or what they were doing, or their time is more important than you, or what you could have been doing, or your time.
If I would resent a friend… well my friend Frog, for example is often late. I don’t resent him – I tell him off a little and work around it a little. I actually got really angry with another friend once when I invited her over for dinner and she turned up at 10pm without apologising. So, not resentment, more open crossness!
This game is so interesting!
These questions are fun, aren’t they? I like the detailed answers I receive; I appreciate all of the thought that goes into the replies.
It sounds like you hit the nail on the head with why you prefer to be on time — because of your father’s tardiness. And isn’t that interesting, that when one is motivated (again like your father) one can change any bad habit.
I think your relationship with Frog is much more open (and healthy) than most friendships are in that you are able to tell him that you were angry and then let it go. I am rarely that forthright with friends. I usually say nothing and then seethe all the way home.
I’d heard (or read) somewhere that Chronic Lateness is a passive aggressive form of control. The late person is making YOU late.
The only person I know who is chronically late is MD. If she says 11 am, it means sometime before 11:30. We joke about it.
But, yes, I would say something to my friend after showing up 15 minutes after I anticipated that they would show up so that s/he knows how it feels. :-)
I’ve heard that same thing — about how the person running late is controlling the situation by making the other person late. I believe I know some people in my family like that.
I am from the Midwest originally. Arriving 10 minutes EARLY actually means you are LATE where I grew up. I always arrive early enough to thoroughly read a program and/or wipe errant bee pollen from my shoes (or some such thing that always seems to happen). Anyway, I think you are a delight.
Really? I’m from the Midwest and I never heard that. I guess I’ve been running late all these years :)
Thanks for stopping by — you’re very kind! I think we have some blog friends in common, I’ll have to cruise through your site.
I may be on vacation, but I will still find time for the Friday question!
Hmm… It definitely depends on my relationship with you. If you and I have been friends for a while, or it’s a doctor whose office notoriously calls you in later than your appointment time, I will allow my true late-by-5-10-minute self to emerge. Most of my friends are worse… they’ll be anywhere from 10-20 minutes late. When we plan get-togethers, I always give them a time 30 minutes before the actual (if there’s a reservation) so that we’ll all be there when we’re supposed to be.
But if I’m meeting someone for the first time, or if it’s for an important interview or event, I’m on time or a few minutes early.
During my initial dating days, I’d even meet a guy for the first time coffee date at least 10 minutes before our scheduled rendezvous. I always found it interesting to position myself facing the door, so I could see him as he walked in and before he noticed me. You can tell a few things about a person by watching them when they don’t think they’re being watched. Also, I’d always want to buy my own first drink, just because I had no idea what the date would be like in person… I didn’t want him thinking I owed him anything because he bought my beverage.
Anyway! I read a lot of the other comments here and I can’t believe some people find it acceptable to be an hour or two late. That is absurd. I’d most likely call those friends out on their lateness, cuz that would irk me. I always considered myself more likely late than early, but I’ve never been anything more than 10 minutes late without calling. How rude! **HUGS!!**
I actually thought about you being on vacation when this question came out! And I thought, get over yourself, Cardiogirl. She’s in HAWAII of all places. She’ll check in when she gets back. And now here you are!!
I like that idea of meeting a date early so you can check out his arrival. Oh! There’s a post. For you, I can’t date anymore, Mr. C would *not* like that. I’m too timid to call anyone out on being late. I think if pushed, I would wait about 45 minutes and then leave. Oh I would be so pissed off.
So far, no one has made me wait that long.
I am never late. It’s a sickness (we may have touched on this already!) And I hate it in other people, but I do put up with it. And I resent it. We’d all be better off if I spoke up, but I just can’t do it. I make excuses for late people, even tho I’m thinking “But I’m not late. I left in plenty of time,” etc.
Someone above said that lateness is the height of rudeness, and I agree. My time is valuable. Treat it appropriately!
We think in one mind, JD. I do the very same thing, make up excuses for the other person, even though I was able to haul it out of the house on time.
Hey Cardiogirl. I’ve seen you around for quite some time because of our mutual friend GS. I popped over last week and saw your Friday question and have been meaning to come back ever since, simply because I don’t know anyone else who knows about The Book of Questions and I was thrilled!
I bought that book… hm… 16 years ago, when I was 17. I also bought The Book of Questions: Love and Sex. They’re still on my shelf. It’s interesting to go back every few years and read through them again because my answers change as I get older.
I’ll definitely be back. :)
How fun is that?! Of course you probably know, any friend of Guilty’s is a friend of mine. I never did get The Book of Questions: Love and Sex but I’ve been known to peruse it at Border’s when no one’s looking :) I think I’m too timid to get into those questions here on the blog, but they are fun to answer privately and then, like you said, revisit the answers a couple of years later.
Welcome, welcome! I’ll have to stop over at your pad!